Last Update on The Boy

[azraelz_angel]

So, avamclean baby, was right and he called three days later. Apparently that rule works in Florida and Maryland - who'd have thunk it? So he called yesterday and we talked. He said that he wanted to get together and meet today (Saturday) and wanted me to get think up something to do.

So, I agreed, said I'd be thrilled to get together and was thrilled he called, whatever. And I was thinking up all the dorky-mcdorky things we could do (i.e. bowling, or Lights on the Bay) and I'm waiting for him to call me after he gets back from hunting.

So, at 11:46 this morning, I get a text message that reads:

I had a great time on Tuesday. Something came up. Dont want to lead you on. Would be glad to hang out as friends anytime.

I sat there, stunned, for a moment or two. And yeah, it sucks that he doesn't want to hang out and see each other more. And yeah, it sucks that I have absolutely no idea what the hell happened between 5 p.m. yesterday when things were great and 11:46 a.m. this morning. But I will confess the thing that really sucked - and I do mean really - is that HE ENDED IT OVER A FUCKING TEXT MESSAGE. /rant *clears throat*

Better now, I swear.

Yeah, so now I have the distinct honor of being one of those poor fucks, that I used to laugh about, that got dumped over a text message. WTF?

And I sent him the following text message back:

A phone call for this would have been nice. Im sorry things didnt work out.

Yes, I could and probably should have been not so nice. But it was only date we had been on. And yeah, we were planning another date that evening, but one date....

And honestly, the boy and this dumb ass situation, is exactly the reason that I hate dating. I always get fucked over.

So, I'm deleting his number out of my phone. I'm going to delete the call records, the text message and the reply. And I'm going to send Molly, the wonderful girl that hooked us up, a short little email. And I'm not going to be a bitch. I am actually going to be nice. Because I'm not sure that she would have ever done this to me if she realized it was going to not work. Who knows, maybe he will mention it to her and she'll be able to tell me what the hell happened that ran him off...

*le sigh*

Comments

[laney-1974.livejournal.com]

Crap! I'm so sorry to hear that. Guys suck, they really do. *hugs*

[kribby.livejournal.com]

Oh that is really odd. If I were deep into analyzing dating situations (and I am-- but I am trying to cut back-- I tend to make my friends ultra paranoid)... I would say perhaps... the fact that you were too available ran him off.

Now, I don't really believe this-- but I have heard it said that if a woman is ultra eager then the guy thinks they don't have many options and they are not interested in being an option... uh yeah... no chase or something like that.

What is likely true is that he has been using match.com or whatever dating site lots and has been dating lots of women and perhaps he had a conversation with one of them that made him realize that he was more interested in what he had developed with miss whomever than gambling with you.

You probably didn't do anything.

The timing was just wrong.

It isn't as if it is love-- he was likely on a search for an acceptable level of happiness and he likely thinks he may have found it with the woman that got there first.

Dating is really most times a freaking race.

All this tells me is... you probably should have paid the match .com (it's match.com, right) joining fee and got in line earlier!

But with all that said-- I am really sorry it didn't work out... and if you are really interested in the online dating scene-- you should try plentyoffish.com It is a free site. Quite a few of my friends have used it successfully.

I think we are the same general age range and general location (me=Baltimore, MD) (I'm 28--- most of my friends are 24-32ish) so I am sure you will have some luck.


Best Wishes-- and please don't dwell on it.

[kaylashay81]

*hugs*

*hunts down 'the boy' and... and... thinks of something worthy of team hellfire to do to him*

[luvsabitch.livejournal.com]

I just got dumped by text too, and in almost exactly the same words! Why do they think we would want to be friends with them after they have been such twats! (((Hugs)))

[avamclean.livejournal.com]

The text dis is childish and proves he’s inept at dating. Though you never know that until you start hanging out with someone—which of course blows. The bit about calling and setting up to meet for this Saturday is a little perplexing. Did he shoot himself while hunting in his secret no, no touch spot and therefore anything fun or uplifting couldn’t happen between you two? *smirks* I like to look at the most positive possibilities to any given situation.

Your response was polite but firm and while a lot nicer than I would have been it worked for your situation. *hugs* And yep, dating does suck most of the time but the fun times more than make up for them eventually. You just have to work your way through the idiots to get to the good ones. When pondering dating I always think of Cher in Clueless (yes, that Cher) and when they says she’s picky about what goes on her feet and therefore she’d be extremely picking about what goes in her. *winks* So I say we look on the bright side that at least you didn’t waste anymore time on this particular moron.