You are right. I wouldn't want to be friends with someone that doesn't have guts enough to end it over the phone.
I agree with you about the coy stuff-- BUT wouldn't you agree that when you have lots going on in your life... when you are busy and doing stuff in different areas you appear more attractive to the opposite sex.
You know... you are more visible in the world and all that... more options and etc.
Of course the thing with being coy and pretending you aren't eager to go out with the guy is at the base the girl is likely just sitting at home all alone wishing they hadn't been coy and instead had accepted the date.
I honestly think the trick to living and dating and being happy is having a life and being open to finding someone that will accent your life not be your life.
My guy friends are very afraid of women that readily accept dates with them or appear to have nothing to do if they call last minute.
After you have been around the bush for a while... and dated some... one fear that develops is the fear that a new person you are dating (future girlfriend) is going to expect you to be around all the time... and do everything with her--
At least this is what my guy friends say.
So the idea in my inconsistent guy friends heads is that being coy-- being a bit reticent... holding back gives them the impression that you have lots going on in your life and you are not going to be a girlfriend that ... crowds them. I guess that hearkens back to the supposed manly fear of commitment.
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Date: 2007-12-23 02:09 pm (UTC)I agree with you about the coy stuff-- BUT wouldn't you agree that when you have lots going on in your life... when you are busy and doing stuff in different areas you appear more attractive to the opposite sex.
You know... you are more visible in the world and all that... more options and etc.
Of course the thing with being coy and pretending you aren't eager to go out with the guy is at the base the girl is likely just sitting at home all alone wishing they hadn't been coy and instead had accepted the date.
I honestly think the trick to living and dating and being happy is having a life and being open to finding someone that will accent your life not be your life.
My guy friends are very afraid of women that readily accept dates with them or appear to have nothing to do if they call last minute.
After you have been around the bush for a while... and dated some... one fear that develops is the fear that a new person you are dating (future girlfriend) is going to expect you to be around all the time... and do everything with her--
At least this is what my guy friends say.
So the idea in my inconsistent guy friends heads is that being coy-- being a bit reticent... holding back gives them the impression that you have lots going on in your life and you are not going to be a girlfriend that ... crowds them. I guess that hearkens back to the supposed manly fear of commitment.